Sunday, December 31, 2023

We Sing Stories of Hope

 

Rev. Debbie Cato
Luke 1:46-55; 67-80
Fairfield Community Church
December 24, 2023 – 4th Sunday of Advent

Loving God, Scripture tells us that the grass withers and the flowers fade, but your Word stands forever. So today we pray— help us to truly hear it. Allow your words to sink deep into the marrow of our bones. Allow your words to lift our hearts in hope, that we might feel one day closer to your promised day. With hopeful and grateful hearts we pray, amen.

 

We Sing Stories of Hope

 

Today is the fourth Sunday of Advent.  We’ve waited four long weeks and tonight, at last, we will sing Christmas carols and celebrate the long-awaited birth of the Messiah.

This Advent our over-arching sermon theme has been “How does a weary world rejoice”.  We have acknowledged that we are living in a time of weariness.  There is much conflict in the world.  A long, drawn-out war in Ukraine and renewed conflict in Israel and Gaza. There are tensions between the United States and other countries. There are tensions within the United States. Listening to our prayer concerns each week there are many people we care about fighting cancer right now and others with equally serious health concerns.  People are struggling. Yes, we are weary.

We discovered that in the midst of weariness, we can find joy in connection;  joy in our relationships with one another.  Joy right here when we gather together to worship. We need one another.  Through one another, we can find joy in the midst of our weariness. 

We talked about how awe and amazement are all around us if we just pay attention; if we just look.  Awe and amazement can break up our weariness and bring joy into our lives.  It’s the small moments – a sunrise or sunset, the laughter of children, an unexpected phone call from a friend that can fill us with awe and a sense of joy.  We can feel joy while still being weary.

Connection and awe and amazement have something in common.  They give us hope.  In an age when weariness surrounds us, when weariness can swallow us up, we need hope more than ever.  Hope gets us through the darkness.  Without hope, there is only despair. Hope reminds us that things will get better. So today, on this last Sunday of Advent, we look at “singing stories of hope.” This idea that when we are swallowed up with weariness, we must grab a hold of hope and remind each other of stories of hope becoming reality.  Times when our hopes came to fruition and the weariness gave way to better times.

After Elizabeth proclaims blessings upon Mary when she arrives at her house pregnant with the Son of God, Mary sings: “My soul magnifies God; my spirit rejoices in God.” Mary sings about a God of liberation who pulls the powerful from their thrones and lifts up the lowly. Mary sings a story of hope, one in which justice and joy are interwoven. As we prepare to celebrate Christ’s birth, we can also sing stories of hope, justice, and joy.[1]

Mary sings of a new world order based on past experiences with God. Her joy is found in remembering what the world has the potential to be based on the presence of God in all things. God has shown strength. God has scattered the proud. God has brought down the powerful. God has lifted the lowly. God has filled the hungry. God has helped those who have served Him according to the promise made to Abraham. God has already done things that should allow a weary world to rejoice. Mary proclaims this in her song of hope and in the story of justice, joy, and a righteous peace.[2]

As soon as Zechariah’s voice returns, his first words are gratitude and blessing. He sings a story of praise for God’s protection and promise, and then he showers a blessing on his newborn son. He sings a story of hope.[3]

Zechariah’s song is a song of hope for the future. His song ignites the thrill of hope that awaits us after a long silence. He bursts into thanksgiving for God’s favor. He acknowledges that God has something better for those who await the future. Zechariah speaks over the life of the one who will be the prophet of the Most High.  Zechariah tells of the blessings for John and speaks into John’s task for the future. It is a song and story of hope.

Consider how the act of singing was important—perhaps even necessary—for Mary and for Zechariah. Imagine how it changed them, how it transformed their experience, how it prepared them for a new chapter. Many preachers will admit that their own sermons are directed at themselves just as much as anyone else. Likewise, were Mary and Zechariah singing the words they needed to hear? Were the words sung by Mary and Zechariah giving them hope as much as those that heard them?

We know that many of the psalms were meant to be sung.  The Israelites knew how to praise God through music.  They knew that song inspired hope.  There are 19 psalms of thanksgiving – thanksgiving and gratitude and inspire hope.  They remind us of what God has done for us in the past. They are assurances of what he will do for us in the future.  There are also 10 psalms of hope.  Psalm 63:7-8 says:  “We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you.”

Are there songs that inspire hope in you?  Are there songs we sing in church that fill your heart with joy and hope when we sing them?  Perhaps there are songs on the radio that naturally fill you with joy.  Give you energy.  Songs that you just have to sing along with.  Songs that even if you are in the depths of weariness, they lift up your soul.  If only for the length of the song, you are brought to another level outside your weariness, outside your darkness.  The music lifts you up. 

Have you ever considered the possibility that you can be a song of hope in someone’s life?  The importance of that connection; that relationship that can turn weariness into joy can bring hope where there is only despair.  Whether it’s a phone call, a visit, words of encouragement, reminders that they are loved, by you and by God … many ways without much effort that we can be a song of hope for someone. Hope changes everything. It’s what keeps us going.

 Rev. Sara Speed wrote a poem about “The Sound of Hope.”  She writes:

The Sound of Hope
Rev. Sara Speed

 

We’ve been singing a sad song

for quite some time,

the melody syncing with our heartbeats,

the lyrics stamped to the front of our minds.

You say, sad songs are honest.

It’s hard to disagree,

for sad songs tap us on the shoulder.

Sad songs remind us

of the 100 different corners

heartbreak could be behind.

 

But I don’t have it in me

to sing a sad song forever.

So despite the news,

despite the aches in my body,

despite the phone call last night

that says she’s waiting for the test results,

despite yesterday’s shooting,

despite the unknown and unchanged,

I am going to sing a song of hope.

 

Like a canary in a snowstorm,

I don’t need another song of what is;

I need a song of what could be.

So sing with me.

Our voices may get drowned out by the wind,

but surely someone will ask:

Was that a flash of yellow in the snow? A Canary.

Was that the sound of hope?

How do we combat the weariness the world brings our way?  Through connection with one another.  By recognizing the awe and amazement all around us.  And by singing stories of hope to remind ourselves, and one another, that what God has done in the past, He will do again.  Amen.



[1] Sanctified Art.  Theme/Commentary.  Fourth Sunday of Advent.  “We Sing Stories of Hope.”
[2] Sanctified Art.  Theme/Commentary.  Fourth Sunday of Advent.  Rev. Cecilia Armstrong.
[3] Sanctified Art.  Theme/Commentary.  Fourth Sunday of Advent.  “We Sing Stories of Hope.”

The Terrifying Loss in Christmas - A Homily for the Weary

Rev. Debbie Cato
Blue Christmas Homily
Luke 2:8-18
December 21, 2023 

 

The Terrifying Loss in Christmas
A Homily for the Weary

 

For anyone who has experienced a loss; for anyone who is struggling with a crisis of any kind – a medical diagnosis, loss of employment, financial problems, relationship problems, depression and isolation – anything that this time of year is hard. 

There is Christmas cheer all around us.  You cannot go into a store, turn on the radio or TV, you cannot go anywhere for that matter, without being reminded that it’s Christmas.  It’s the holidays and you should be happy.  But thousands and thousands of people dread this time of year.  But society does not allow much room for sadness at Christmas.  This feeling that you must be happy and there is something wrong if you are not, is very isolating.  It can fill you with dread and even make you fearful of being in public, being around people.

The Christmas narrative, the story of the birth of Jesus, is a serene scene.  A “silent night” experience.  But the story of the shepherds and who they are and the work they did bring fear and terror into the story.  They have intense emotions that aren’t just from the angels surprising them on Christmas night.  Their intense emotions come from their work.

 Shepherding was a job reserved for slaves, underpaid servants or the youngest sons – people deemed “expendable” given the danger of the job. It was not uncommon for shepherds to have to defend their flocks of sheep from wild animals or thieves.  It was not uncommon for shepherds to die on the job.[1]

 The shepherds in the nativity story do not live a serene life.  They were not laying around, relaxed and comfortable when the angels showed up.  They were waiting, listening to the night, bracing for danger to spring out from the dark.

And that night near Bethlehem, that’s exactly what happens.  A scare of cosmic proportions happens.  Angels appear in the sky and the shepherds are terrified.  An angel exclaims, “Fear not!”  The news of Jesus’ birth is delivered and the shepherds leave their flocks and begin a journey into the night to find the Christ child.

Grieving during Advent feels a lot like this part of the Christmas narrative – anticipating danger lurking in the darkness.  While the rest of the world is singing carols and decorating trees, those who are grieving are facing a Christmas without someone they love and dreading it’s arrival.  Those who are grieving have something “off” in their lives.  The weight of isolation is overwhelming and can make it seem as though grief belongs nowhere near celebrations, Advent services, or even Christ himself.  But the shepherds story proves to us that God believes the opposite.[2] 

An angel found the shepherds at night and an invitation to meet the baby Jesus was offered to the fearful, the outcast, the expendable.  After the angels left, the shepherds traveled through the night to meet their Savior. The danger was still there, the fear still lurked, but they took steps that led them closer to Christ.  In fact, the shepherds were the first to see the baby Christ child. 

If you are grieving this Advent; if you are struggling, embrace what the shepherds teach us and what the candles we will light in a bit help us remember: Grief does not disqualify us from Advent.  Grief highlights what Advent is all about. It is O.K. to feel.  To feel both grief and gratefulness.  To feel both sadness and joy.  To feel both loss and hope.  The emotion makes us real.  And this holiday, there is truly space for both.[3]

Peace comes from knowing that God can still find us, even in the midst of our darkest nights.  God saw humanities suffering and chose to experience it firsthand and come to earth.  Joy can show up unexpectedly, not in the form of happiness, but with gratitude that our grief is seen and felt by God.  On Christmas, hope was born into flesh in the form of a baby whose life, death, and resurrection would bring life to all.[4]

 I pray you will find peace, joy, and hope this season.  Amen.



[1] Faith & Leadership.  Leadership Education at Duke Divinity.  Kalina Carlson.  December 2023. 
[2] Ibid.
[3] Rachel Marie Martin.  Findingjoy.net.
[4] Faith & Leadership.  Leadership Education at Duke Divinity.  Kalina Carlson.  December 2023. 


We Allow Ourselves to Be Amazed

Rev. Debbie Cato
Luke 1:57-66
Fairfield Community Church @ PCAL
December 17, 2023 – 3rd Sunday of Advent

God of the universe, make our hearts porous. Open our eyes, as if for the first time, so that we might see your world with awe and wonder once again. Help us greet this text with awe and gratitude, so that in doing so, we will not only find you in the hallways of our thoughts, but in the pathways of our hearts. With gratitude we pray: keep us open. Amen.

 

We Allow Ourselves to Be Amazed

 

When was the last time you were amazed?  Not surprised – there is much about our world that should shock us; surprise us.  But when were you last amazed – wrapped up in wonder, absorbed in an unexpected delight?[1]

On Thursday morning we had the most beautiful sunrise.  I was actually up early on Thursday – something unusual for me, so I saw the sunrise.  It was stunning.  The sky was purple and pink.  My daughter Jessica, sent me a picture of Clara, who is 5, and Caleb, who is 3, sitting in their  camping chairs in the driveway watching the sunrise.  She said that she went outside, ready to get the kids in the truck and get them off to daycare and school and there they were, sitting and watching the sun rise.  She said they were in awe of the colors.  Amazed with the sunrise.  She said it caused her to slow down, pull up a chair, and watch it with them.  She would have missed it if the kids awe had not caught her attention.  Ask me after church and I’ll be happy to show you the picture! 

If you want to understand what awe, and amazement, and delight are – watch a child.  They are good at it!  They always have time to be amazed. They freely accept and express awe and delight.  Whether it’s a baby seeing Mom or Dad walk into a room or seeing Christmas tree lights for the first time or a child opening up presents or seeing a sky full of stars – the delight in their eyes and on their faces makes the rest of us smile, take notice, and fills us with awe.     

After Elizabeth gives birth, her neighbors and family celebrate with her. When it comes time to name the child, Elizabeth calls him John. Everyone is shocked!  He should be named Zechariah, after his father.  That is the tradition.  Where does the name John come from anyway? Elizabeth must be wrong!  But Zechariah affirms the name given by the both the angel Elizabeth. He writes it down because he can’t speak. The child’s name is John. In that moment of affirming the promise made to God; the promise that the surprised name of the child is indeed John, Zechariah’s speech is restored. Everyone is filled with awe. They celebrate with delight. Surely the hand of the Lord will be on this child named John.

God had done a wonderous thing.  Elizabeth in her old age had conceived a son; a son who would prepare the way for the Son of God.  Zechariah, struck mute because of his disbelief could speak once they fulfilled the promise to God to name their son John.  I can imagine the awe and wonder of Elizabeth and Zechariah gazing into the eyes of their newborn son.  Counting his fingers and toes.  Smelling his newborn scent.  This child was their long-awaited family.  A family they never thought they would have. 

How often do you allow yourself to be amazed? Wonder is all around us—do we recognize it? As we learn how to rejoice in a weary world, can we live in a way that allows amazement and wonder to surprise us often?

The shepherds were awed when the angels unexpectedly greeted them in the dark of the night.  They were amazed enough that they left their flocks of sheep to find the newborn baby.  They were awed when they found the baby lying in the manager and they worshiped him.

The magi were amazed when they noticed a never-before seen star in the sky.  So amazed, that they traveled more than 900 miles to find the Christ child.  Though they were foreigners and not Jews, they knew who this baby was; the Son of God.  Their awe caused them too to worship the Son of God.

The awe and amazement of the shepherds and the magi allowed these unlikely characters to be the first visitors to see the Messiah. They weren’t the powerful or religious leaders.  They weren’t even followers of the faith.  But it was the shepherds and the magi that God chose to travel and find his newborn son.  It was these unlikely characters who got the first word; the first look at the baby Jesus.

Psalm 126, says:

When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion,

    we were like those who dreamed.

Our mouths were filled with laughter,

    our tongues with songs of joy.

Then it was said among the nations,

    “The Lord has done great things for them.”

The Lord has done great things for us,

    and we are filled with joy.

Those who expected to reap tears are granted a surprise: shouts of joy. Amazement is a balm for the weary.

After having serious health problems this year and being sick with no energy for 10 months, I wake up every day in awe of how good I feel and the energy I have.  The weariness I felt for so long is gone.  God has replaced it with joy.  Can anyone relate?

But even when we are weary; even when we are in the depths of darkness, God puts things in our path that can bring us awe, things that can amaze us.  The voice of a good friend on the other end of the phone.  A beautiful sunrise or sunset.  Unexpected fresh snow in the morning.  A child’s laughter at a simple delight.  The awe of a new day.

Mary Oliver, a wonderful poet, said this about awe:  she says,

          Instructions for living a life.

          Pay attention.

          Be astonished.   

          Tell about it.

I think sometimes us adults take life too seriously.  We are busy.  We move from one task to the next and we don’t take time to pay attention.  To look.  To see.  To listen.  To hear.  God’s amazing creation surrounds us.  God’s diverse humanity is everywhere.  What is around us that is astonishing?  That is unexpected?  That is amazing?  It’s there.  We just have to notice.  And then as Mary Oliver suggests, we should tell about it.  Share it with one another.  Did you see the beautiful sunrise this morning?  Today my friend called me. I haven’t heard from her for a long time and it was so good to hear her voice.  It was such a wonderful surprise. 

There is  much to be weary about.  We don’t have to look for it.  It seems to find us. Whether it’s something in our personal life or something in our community or the world, weariness surrounds us and it can suck us in.  We need to look for the awe.  We need to be open to be amazed.  To find joy.  It’s all around us too. It’s waiting to be noticed; to be found.  To be taken in and held and digested and shared. 

Like Elizabeth and Zechariah, God is blessing us all the time.  If we take time to notice, we will be amazed with how He works in our lives.  It will fill us with awe and wonder and joy.  It will help ease the weariness. 

Rev. Sara Speed from Sanctified Art wrote a poem about awe and joy.  It’s called:

All the Way to Joy
Rev. Sara Speed

 We could play hard and fast,

not let anything touch us at all,

keep composure,

have all the answers.

Or we could crack ourselves open

and let everything in.

 

We could feel everything,

every touch, every marvel.

We could stand gaping

at the beauty of the world,

mouths wide open (because sometimes

a mouth wide open is the very best gratitude).

We could laugh so loudly

that the whole restaurant looks,

and err on the side of goofy

whenever possible.

We could put our defenses down.

We could grow soft.

We could choose awe.

We could take her by the arm.

We could let her lead us all the way to joy.

 

I like the end –

We could put our defenses down. We could grow soft. We could choose awe. We could take her by the arm. We could let her lead us all the way to joy.

Perhaps as adults it’s hard for us to feel awe because we have our defenses up. We think awe is for the children.  Our role is to take life seriously.  But, let’s challenge that.  God created us to feel awe and wonder; to laugh and be filled with joy.  He created an amazing world around us filled with wonders – things waiting to fill us with awe.  Fill us with joy.  He created people and put them in our lives to share our weariness and share our delights.  To laugh and cry together.  To be in relationship with. 

Even though we know the nativity story by heart, will we be prepared to be amazed by the birth of Christ?  Amazed that God uses ordinary people to achieve His plan?  Will we allow ourselves to once again be amazed that God took on flesh and moved into the neighborhood?

Next week is a busy week.  What will bring you awe?  Will you be open to what God has waiting for you?  If so, prepare to be amazed.  Amen.



[1] Rev. Lisle Gwynn Garrity.  From the Artist.  The Third Week of Advent.  Sanctified Art.  How Does a Weary World Rejoice?  We allow ourselves to be amazed.

Sunday, December 10, 2023

We Find Joy In Connection

 Rev. Debbie Cato
Fairfield Community Church
Luke 1:24-45
December 10, 2023 – 2nd Sunday of Advent


Holy God, We know that you are near. We know that you are standing at the door, you are running down the driveway, you are inviting us in— into your Word, into relationship, and deeper into joy. So as we approach your Word, O God, we pray: do not let us pass you by. Do not allow distraction or doubt to get the best of us. Do not let us walk down this road without you. Instead, give us the wisdom to turn and run your way. Give us the wisdom to hear your wisdom, to let it sink into our bones and change us. With hope and gratitude we pray, amen.

 

We Find Joy In Connection

 

Two pregnant women.  Elizabeth is old – well past the childbearing years.  She and Zechariah always wanted children; they prayed for years for a family.  But Elizabeth was barren and their dreams of being parents never came true.  And then, in her old age, Elizabeth becomes pregnant.  Zechariah knows how and why but he has been struck unable to speak because of his disbelief.  Does Elizabeth even know how and why this happened?  Does she know she is carrying the one who will prepare the way for the Messiah? 

Elizabeth spends the first 5 months of her pregnancy in seclusion.  We don’t know why. Rev. Cecelia Armstrong speculates that perhaps Elizabeth’s reason for her isolation was due to the same reasons Zechariah was silenced. Elizabeth probably had questions. Can we speculate what those questions might have been?” she asks.  “Does the Lord know how old I am?” “We have been wanting children for a long time and NOW we are pregnant?” “The shame of being barren has caused me to be weary, so how am I supposed to rejoice with this?” We don’t hear her questions, but we hear her resolve in verse 25: “This is what the Lord has done for me when he looked favorably on me and took away the disgrace I have endured among my people.”[1]  

Being childless – being barren was a huge disgrace for Elizabeth.  And it fell on the woman.  The wife.  The disgrace was unbelievable and Elizabeth had lived with it her whole life.  Besides the disappointment of not having children, the disgrace of her barrenness would have filled Elizabeth with a heavy weariness.

The second woman is young.  It’s thought that Mary was probably 14-years-old.  Mary is not yet married but she is engaged to be married.  She is still a virgin. And now she is pregnant – carrying the Son of God!  How could this be?  And yet, Mary tells the angel Gabriel,  “Let it be to me, according to your word.”  Let it be to me, according to your word.

Mary sounds like she is at peace with this idea that not only is she pregnant as a virgin, but she is pregnant with the Son of God. Yet I venture to say she must have been weighed down with questions. Weighed down with concerns about logistics.  Weighed down wondering about her future. Being told that her elderly relative Elizabeth, barren her whole life, is five months pregnant, Mary immediately sets off to travel to visit her. 

According to tradition, Elizabeth and Zechariah lived in Ein Karem in the Judean hill country, which was about five miles west of Jerusalem and 80 miles from Nazareth. What compelled Mary to go to Elizabeth? What kept her going those 80 miles by herself?  Think about the many hardships of this journey by foot would hold, especially for a young girl who was pregnant.

We don’t know anything about Mary’s travels. We can only speculate.  What we do know is that Mary sets out with haste to enter the house of Zechariah and greet Elizabeth. Creative thinking suggests that Mary did all of this on her own, in isolation, by herself, with no one to help, hurt, or hinder her mission. She must have suspected that Elizabeth would understand her questions.  Elizabeth would understand her weariness.

We don’t hear Mary’s internal dialogue during her travels. That internal voice that speaks to us.  We can imagine her asking herself over and over, “Does the Lord know how young I am?” “I haven’t even been married yet and NOW I am pregnant?”  Perhaps she thought, “The shame of being with child without being married first has caused me to feel weary; to feel weighted down.  How am I supposed to rejoice with this?” We don’t hear her questions, but we witness her resolve by seeing her travel so far, by herself, to be with her relative.[2]

I dare say that both these women are weary.  I suspect Elizabeth had been weary for years.  Depressed because she was barren.  Disgraced because she was childless.  Perhaps embarrassed because now she was pregnant  at such an old age.  Maybe the pregnancy was difficult, and she was sick.  Confused because her husband was unable to speak.  Mary must have been worried about what Joseph would do, finding her pregnant before they were married.  There was much shame attached to her pregnancy – out of wedlock we call it today.  What would it mean to be the mother of the Son of God?  Weary from traveling so far while pregnant.  Perhaps she wasn’t sure how Elizabeth would greet her.  Yes, both women were weary.

Before he took off, Gabriel made sure to tell Mary that her kinswoman Elizabeth was also going to have a child. It seems to me that the angel was suggesting to Mary that she should look to her older and wiser cousin for counsel and support, and to see her as someone she could lean on and learn from and even celebrate with. And of course, when Mary showed up at Elizabeth’s door, the baby in Elizabeth’s womb, little John the Baptist, sensed the presence of Jesus in Mary’s womb and literally kicked off the celebration by leaping for joy.  Elizabeth’s weariness changed to joy when she made the connection with Mary.

Mary stays for three months –until Elizabeth is about to deliver the one who will prepare the way for Mary’s own baby, the Son of God.  Rev. Armstrong says, “These two pregnant women share their experiences with one another. They chat and hang out together.  Two pregnant women, who are related but surely different from one another. One is young and one is old. One is married and one is not yet married. One is carrying the Word of God and one is carrying the one who prepares the way. They were both separate when they got news of God’s plans for their lives. (Do we know how Elizabeth got the news that her pregnancy was special since Zechariah was unable to speak?) It is when they are connected that they experience shared joy. It is when they come out of their isolation that joy becomes the connection. If comfort is a necessity in this weary world, then rejoicing should be done in the company of others. Mary and Elizabeth have shown us joy in joining and comfort in connecting.”[3]

Ross Gay, in his book of essays called “Inciting Joy” says, “Too often we think of joy as meaning “without pain” or “without sorrow.” But what if joy is not only entangled with pain or suffering or sorrow, but is also what emerges from how we care for each other through those things?  What if joy, instead of refuge or relief from heartbreak, is what effloresces from us as we help each other carry our heartbreaks?  Another words, what if joy needs sorrow?”[4]

Francis Ward Weller, author and grief specialist says that “the work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them.”  She says, “How much sorrow can I hold?  That’s how much gratitude I can give.  If I carry only grief, I’ll bend toward cynicism and despair.  If I have only gratitude, I’ll become saccharine and won’t develop much compassion for other people’s suffering.  Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which helps make compassion possible.”

You see, I think that when we are alone; when we are isolated, our weariness grows.  It’s easier to stay focused on the heaviness of life; the things we wish were different, the things that are hard; the tiredness of it all when we are by ourselves.  But there is something about connecting with others; something about sharing space with people that expands our outlook; opens our mind and allows us to feel joy.  Joy brought to us just from connecting with another human being.  Joy from just being alive. Joy that we can’t always feel by ourselves. 

It’s not that our problems go away.  It’s not that the weight of the world disappears.  That isn’t reasonable.  Everyone is carrying a burden.  Everyone has problems.  We are all weary.  But that does not preclude joy.  We can experience joy in the midst of grief, in the midst of  anxiousness and worry; in the midst of anything.  Joy is like that.  It pops up and surprises us.  Joy comes through the unexpected; the ordinary; and other people.  It comes when we connect with people.  It comes when we open ourselves to others.  Joy is about connection beyond ourselves.  It comes when, like Elizabeth, we fling the door open and find someone we don’t expect on the other side.  It comes when we welcome someone into our lives and into our hearts.  Joy is rooted in love and hope and faith.  Three things that we find from other people and from our relationships with God.  Love, hope, and faith – sometimes lost when we are weary.  Someone else can help us find them.  Joy can become a way of life – even in a world that is filled with disappointment and darkness and weariness.  Joy can overtake the dark.  It can creep in and be an act of resistance against the despair. 

So who is your Elizabeth?  Who will fling open the door for you and delights when they see you? Who is your Mary?  Who will show up when you are isolated and alone?  Who connects with  you and shares in your weariness?  It makes such a difference to hold hard questions; to hold things that make us weary together—like Mary, like Elizabeth. It is so valuable to give ourselves to those who can help us navigate these times: those who bear witness when our lives travel far beyond anything we can understand; those who help us recognize and celebrate clarity when it comes; those who help us live into the mysteries that unfold over time; those who know that our hearts are made whole not so much by certainties but by the love that carries us and connects us through it all.

Are you an Elizabeth or a Mary?  Are you willing to show up and sit with someone who is weary? Are you someone who shows up and makes a connection with someone who needs to know that joy can exist alongside weariness?  We all need connection.  God created us to be in relationship with one another.  We can find joy in being together.

I want to close with a poem by Rev. Sarah Speed who is one of the founders of Sanctified Art.

 

Lessons in Connection
Prayer by Rev. Sarah Speed | A Sanctified Art LLC | sanctifiedart.org

 

It’s been a long day,
long enough to complain,
long enough to wine and dine my
disappointment,
to give weariness
keys to the house.
But then you get the giggles
dancing with the dog in the kitchen.
Paws-sliding, tail-wagging,
side-cramping giggles.
I can hear it from across the house.
Your joy burrows its way
through the cracks in my armor
and then we are both laughing,
gulping for joyous, electric air.
And that’s when I know—
if you grab my hand,
if you ask me to dance,
if our weary human souls can
make room for connection,
then we will survive.
Joy will take root.
Love will keep
her keys to the house.  Amen.



[1] Sanctified Art.  Second Sunday of Advent.  Commentary | Luke 1:24-45 & Isaiah 40:1-11 by Rev. Cecelia D. Armstrong.
[2] Sanctified Art.  Second Sunday of Advent.  Commentary | Luke 1:24-45 & Isaiah 40:1-11 by Rev. Cecelia D. Armstrong
[3] Sanctified Art.  Second Sunday of Advent.  Commentary | Luke 1:24-45 & Isaiah 40:1-11 by Rev. Cecelia D. Armstrong
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